It is rare to have quality time with each child, especially if you have more than one child in the family. From my experience yesterday,it may be worth finding the time, as it could be the best gift you could give.
Yesterday, Kye had a pupil free day at his new school. We had been organising the day for weeks as an incentive for help him along with his new changes. Kye asked that we go for lunch with his Nonna, go to the movies to see Kung Fu Panda 2 and to do some "shopping"! We had such a wonderful day together. I could not help but watch the excitement in his eyes throughout the whole day. He fell asleep last night filled with love. As he closed his eyes, he said "You are the best mum. Thanks for the best day of my life. Love ya".
Years ago I read an amazing book called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Initially the book was about relationships. It honestly changed our way of thinking and our relationship. It is one of the best books I have read for really understanding your partner. Years later, Gary realised another book along the same lines and this time it was about our children.
The book basically explains that we all have different needs to fill our love tanks. When our love tanks are filled, we will feel love, security, validated and we are then able to fill others love tanks. It all makes sense when you read it.
The point I am getting to is, our kids need quality time (one of the love languages). They don't need more stuff, more food, more activities, more entertainment. They need us! If you really think about it, try and remember the last time you had quality time with just one of your children one on one. I am just as guilty, especially with having three children.
But......from my day yesterday, it reminded me how much a child needs our individual attention and love. I was lucky to have a full day with Kye, but it could be as simply, as taking one of your kids to have a milkshake, go for a walk, play a game together. Ideally, if you have other children, it may be easy to leave the house to be able to give your full attention. It could be for an hour or two or even a car ride together.
My new goal is to schedule once a month individual time with each child. It is the time when you really can find out what is going on in their little heads with no interruptions.
Try and give it a go this month.......would love you feedback!
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