Does Motherhood Define You?

"You don't stop being a woman when you start being a mother. Motherhood doesn't define you. It is one of many roles that you assume. You have to bring all your own gifts, traits and characteristics to the role. Your actions must be consistent with what you think, hope, believe and value as a person. You cannot have peace in your mind and heart unless you are being authentic."

— Dr. Phil

Women have many roles in life and motherhood tends to plays the major part.However, this role does not have to define who we are or take over our individuality. It is a tricky balance to find, as motherhood is the most consuming role. One that we are part of every day, every week, every minute.

Somewhere in the cycle of playing our different roles, we need to remember and reclaim who we really are. This may be done by simply including something you really enjoy for yourselves every day - having a coffee on your own, sewing, painting, reading, cooking (for passion not for a chore!), having a warm bath.. Its about including passions back into our life to remind us of what we really like to do.

It may also be balanced by career - having a part-time/full-time job or own business. Women find themselves in their field of work as they are seen in that place as a person, not a mother.

It may also be found by having a break. Whether this be one day a week, one hour a week or a weekend away.

Sometime today, take 10 minutes and think about who you truly are beside a mother and try to incorporate little acts of pleasure that will remind you of who you really are.....welcome back!