Well, the word going around, is that we all freakin tired and have no energy for wild passionate sex. Is this part of the gig of motherhood? It can easily be, as it's often the last thing we feel like doing as we lay our head on the pillow or our partner gives us the eye across the kitchen bench.
I am on the search for the secret ingredient to give us more energy.....news will be launched next week....
In the meantime, we need to get our minds interested before we can physically be keen for the sack. One of my favorite sex therapists is Dr Laura Berman who is a regular on the Oprah show. Here is some of her advice:
The sex and intimacy cycleSex and intimacy are closely linked in our brains, but men and women respond differently to intimacy. Many men can't feel intimate with their partner unless their sex life is satisfying, but many women can't enjoy sex without intimacy. For men, sex feeds intimacy, and for women, intimacy feeds sex. These sexual differences can be disruptive to your relationship, so it is important to nourish your sex life with intimacy.
One of Dr Berman's solutions:
Commit to Sex at Least Once a Week
While putting sex on your weekly to-do list might seem like one of the least romantic things ever, Dr. Berman says it could be the key to reviving your intimacy. "It feels unromantic at first [to schedule sex] because we have the misconception that sex is supposed to happen spontaneously, which it does in the beginning of the relationship when your dopamine centers of the brain are firing and everything's new and you can't get enough of each other," Dr. Berman says. "But that doesn't work in a long-term relationship. If you wait for it to happen spontaneously, you're going to be waiting forever."
For more information, you can read more of Dr Berman's advice on www.drlauraberman.com
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