Gai explained in the interview that the secret to making her marriage work is making her husband the priority in her life, as she will not have her kids forever. They will eventually move on with their own lives and relationships and she prefers not to be on of those mothers swinging on the children's tails.
She continued to explain "I want to look after my husband so when he gets home he has the girlfriend, not the cranky wife. Now that doesn't always happen, but, as you know, I really make him my No.1 concern and he lets me on a very loose rein; he lets me have my freedom. I couldn't stand it if my husband were restrictive with me".
Interesting! I remember watching an Oprah show years ago with a strong opinionated woman stood up in the audience and claimed that she put her husband before her children. The majority of women were outraged asking "how could you not put your children first?". It caused an interesting debate. Later on in the show, the woman with the opinion explained "If I dont look after my marriage, everything else suffers". It made sense to me.
However, I am sure we are all for the idea of making our partner our priority, but it must be a two way partnership. It would be easy to give up on this idea if there was no loving in return.
One of the best books I have ever read on relationships is "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. The husband and I read this book years ago. It was an eye opener and we implemented the tools which is the basis of our marriage. We know that if we have the love languages in place, everything else will be fine.
Take the assessment today and figure out your love language. Ask your partner to take his test. The result may surprise you. It could be the answer you have been looking for to find out how your partner works....
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives
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